Wednesday, February 6, 2019

“NO BREAKS! SINGLE PARENT OR NOT”


Let us say that this article is by no means intended to give anyone a warm and fuzzy feeling, no way, no how!! “I NEED A BREAK FROM THESE KIDS”!!

Have you ever heard or uttered those words? We were talking to some friends and having a real deep discussion the other day and single parenting became the discussion and we all acknowledged that we’ve heard folks expressing needing a break from their children.  “This must be new” because coming from a group of 4 kids, we had 1 parent my mother, she didn’t take any breaks. In fact, it was like she was a quintuplet because when she moved so did 4 other little people! lol
That lady made it clear to us when we did go to visit friends and some of our relatives, under no uncertain terms were we to ask to spend the night and we didn’t.  These folks that talk about needing breaks act as if they don’t’ know that folks that prey on kids are looking for parents that always need a break.

What’s wrong with you all that are always letting Johnny or Jane have a play date or sleep over with the first person that offers.  You just met Johnny’s schoolmate’s mom or dad and you’ve already packed Johnny’s overnight bag, you’re more than ready to let these people leave your presence with your most precious commodity “YOUR CHILD”…ARE YOU ALL NUTZZZ?
News Flash for all of you parents single or otherwise, when you have kids, “YOU LOSE THE RIGHT TO BE SELFISH” …And taking breaks became obsolete when you decided you were ready to take on the responsibility of another person!
The child that god LOANED you is your heavy responsibility and you have been entrusted to take care of them and protect them.  Therefore, my friends, cousin Joe, Uncle Sam, Coach Jim and the next-door neighbor Sarah, should not ever have free reign with your child.  Here’s a little statistic for you, did you know that in about 90% of the cases of sexual abuse of a child, the perpetrator is someone the child already knows and trust.  That means you know them, and you trust them too! Now I’m not saying that you should be suspicious of everybody but don’t be scared to be suspicious and position yourself to be your child’s FIRST LINE OF DEFENSE”.  

If someone who appears to be more interested in children than in adults, offers free babysitting or private excursions with your child it doesn’t necessarily mean they are planning any harm but, such behavior should put you on alert.  Remember an offer that sounds too good to be true most times it’s just that “TOO GOOD TO BE TRUE”!   ..Carefully screen anyone who volunteers to take your little person off your hands, screen them, ask questions, who will be there, friends, family and what will they be doing.  And more importantly “DON’T LET YOUR BABIES SPEND THE NIGHT AT OTHER PEOPLE’S HOMES”. You’re relinquishing all control over what goes on with your child when you don’t know all the parties sleeping where your baby is sleeping.
This article doesn’t profess to give you new information, it’s a “REMINDER”, single parenting is the HARDEST JOB IN THE WORLD! And if you haven’t been told lately “YOU’RE DOING A FANTASTIC JOBS. Just please, please, please don’t let your guard down.

This piece could go on and on and I know some of you readers are wondering why we’re on this tangent?  We’ll tell you why, because we have little people around us that are more precious to us than gold. We don’t want any harm to come to them because it would go down to the marrow if we thought anyone was trying to hurt them or scar them.  Let’s WATCH our own babies and Let everyone know we’re keeping a close watch on those who think we’re not WATCHING!


It takes a village to raise a child, it takes an army to protect them!!!!!!